Why Men Are Overly Protective Of The Women In Their Lives, A Depressing Reason

Why Men Are Overly Protective Of The Women In Their Lives, A Depressing Reason
The saying "a picture is worth a thousand words" aptly captures my opinion of the video Emily Nierengarten posted on TikTok on August 24, 2023. In the brief 5-second footage, Emily is seen driving along while sipping water and attending to some text that is hovering above her head.

The actual sentence from the text is "when you realize that boyfriends, dads, and brothers are so overprotective of women in their lives because even men don't trust men." The caption reads, "Everything makes so much sense but then not at all," and she gives the audience a look of surprise. But as a 25-year-old man with numerous important women in my life, that makes perfect sense to me. My head had such a strong, emotional reaction to Emily's brief sentence.

males don't trust other males, of course.The emergence of the "#MeToo" movement was a significant first step in highlighting the pervasive threat that men pose to women from all sectors of life. The hashtag "#NotAllMen" gained popularity in response to this trend, which sought to diminish the claims and defenses made by women in the most frail and toxically masculine manner possible.

A nonprofit organization called Stop Street Harassment conducted an online survey in January 2018 that found that 81 percent of women have ever been the victim of sexual harassment. 41 percent of men reported having experienced some type of sexual harassment, which is equally troubling but less common.

The U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission reports that between 2018 and 2021, women reported 78.2% of all workplace sexual harassment claims.

Approximately 1 in 5 women reported being raped, either successfully or unsuccessfully, at some point in their lifetime, according to The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey.

The most crucial thing to consider is the under-reporting. There may be some margins for error, such as women being the perpetrators and false charges (which are exceedingly rare). 63% of sexual assaults go unreported to the police, according to the National Sexual Violence Resource Center. In 2017, a BBC survey found that 63% of women did not report the sexual harassment they experienced at work.

Men terrify women. If you're a woman who doesn't fear men and you're reading this, I think we've reached a time where being able to be fearless of men is a privilege. You might be quite well shielded or sure of your ability to defend yourself. Maybe you're not noticing it happening around you, or maybe you just don't think you should be afraid of it for moral reasons.

But I've read all the data since I'm a male. I read online accounts of women who were murdered for doing something as simple as rejecting unwelcome overtures from men. I have heard personal accounts from women in my life about their interactions with guys. I can relate to their apprehension when making a nighttime journey.

I have the luxury of not experiencing these anxieties or other things that women do since I am a man. I don't have to worry about getting mugged or robbed when I'm out at night because, in 2012, 87 percent of people arrested on suspicion of robbery were men, according to the FBI. Eighty one percent of violent crimes are committed by men.

Why should I believe men? Why do I have this reason? Men have repeatedly demonstrated that they are the issue. My innate mistrust of other males stems from my awareness that women must live in constant fear of them.

Both sides of the debate are incorrect on an emotional and personal level, but I've also witnessed guys close to me treat women like things and have ideas that closely resemble misogynistic ones. the emergence of individuals like Andrew Tate and how easy young guys may be persuaded to behave badly toward women because they think it's "cool."

The best thing that males can do in this scenario as "allies" is to criticize other men for their actions and make an effort to elevate the voices of women. To listen when it's necessary to listen and to hold out hope for a time when our efforts and those of others will make the world a better place for the women we cherish.
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